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Kindness may be the antidote to poisonous divorce

On Behalf of | Dec 20, 2021 | Firm News |

Lake County, Illinois, couples will probably agree that divorce does not have to be bitter and contentious. The passage of time may abate bitterness and divorced couples may begin to respect one another. At least, that is the ideal outcome of the situation.

Divorce need not be a point and counterpoint of sarcastic comments, to the point of bitterness and resentment. It can be a situation where kindness rules the day and spouses remember that at one time, they were a couple, living under the same roof and sharing a life.

Some stories of divorce show that some former spouses do respect each other. One story recounts how when a woman moved into a new house after a divorce, her former husband dropped by with congratulatory champagne. Divorce did not cause bitterness or resentment in their relationship.

Acts of kindness are rare in divorce but they do happen. One additional story of kindness begetting kindness is of the former wife who returned her former spouse’s wedding ring when she found it among her jewels after the divorce. She stated that she returned the ring not as an insult but because the ring was really his and he might want to sell it because it was valuable. The man returned her kindness by gifting their son with a watch that her parents had given him at the time of their engagement. What each person did after divorce was indeed a powerful example of consideration.

Admittedly, most divorces do not end on a harmonious note. Squabbles over property division, child support, and alimony most often ensue. Where these conflicts do occur, they may be handled by an experienced Illinois family law attorney, for the best possible outcome.

Source: The Huffington Post, “Acts of Kindness in Divorce: Rare But Powerful,” Jackie Pilossoph, May 12, 2014