Children in a divorce have a difficult position. They intuitively love both of their parents, yet they must reconcile that with the fact that their parents no longer lover each other. Depending on the age and sophistication of the child, this disjunction can cause problems after the divorce is final.
And these problems can be amplified or ameliorated by how the parent time or visitation arrangements are configured and by how the divorced parent’s relationship will play out for the duration of the child custody agreement. No matter how displeased you are with your soon-to-be former spouse, if you have children, you will need to have a plan for how you will work with your former spouse.
There are programs that can provide counseling services for both you and your children, to enable the development of communication and coping skills that will allow your post-divorce situation to work out.
Conflict is bad for children, and it does not provide any benefit for adults. Communication is the key to maintaining a working relationship, and it prevents issues from festering and becoming worse.
Children are sensitive, and have a tendency to take blame for their parents’ divorce. It is important to prevent this from becoming a settled belief. Your attorney can help recommend resources to help with many of the issues that arise from a divorce.
They can also assist by helping you develop a parenting plan that is genuinely workable for you and your former spouse. An effectively implemented parenting plan can help children with the transition to a divorced household.
Source: Fox2now.com, “Kids in the Middle -Support During Divorce,” Kelly Hoskins, September 27, 2013