The payment of child support, for many men, feels like adding insult to injury. Their divorce, no matter who initiated the proceedings, may feel like an open wound. They may have had to move out of the home, and if their wife has custody, they may feel as if they are always scrambling to try to reconstruct some kind of positive relationship with their child or children.
Add to this the need to write a monthly check for child support to the person who, sometimes, is responsible for all of this added complexity and bad feeling, and you can understand their sense of dissatisfaction in providing money to “that person.”
Maybe it would be better if we had a system like the bankruptcy trustees, where the non-custodial parent would pay the trustee, and the trustee would pay the custodial parent. This would insulate the paying parent from the direct contact with the receiving parent and perhaps remove some of the psychological discomfort from the process.
On the other hand, that would create an entirely new layer of bureaucracy that would have to be staffed and paid for, with higher fees or additional taxes. This might not be ideal at this political moment.
Of course, if everyone stopped and remembered that the child support payments are for the benefit of the children, and refrained from using them as a weapon to continue warfare against the other parent, the entire process would work more smoothly.
If you have genuine issues with child support, either you cannot afford them and you need the amount reduced in a modification or you are not receiving them and to enforce the payment, speak with an attorney, as they can look at your situation and provide advice.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Child Support: Why He Can’t Stand Giving You That Check Every Month,” Jackie Pilossoph, September 30, 2013